A WOMAN whose boyfriend hasn’t had sex with her for seven years has defended her decision to have an affair.
She explained that she’s tried to talk to her man on multiple occasions about his “low sex drive”, but he “refuses to do anything” about it.
And the situation is even more frustrating because she’s otherwise “very happy” and feels “fulfilled” in every aspect of their relationship.
But after having the same conversation with her man for seven years – as well as offering to go to therapy or to the doctor with him – she “finally snapped” and cheated.
“I know cheating was wrong,” she wrote in the post on Reddit.
“But isn’t withholding sex from your partner for seven years also wrong?”
She explained that the “constant rejection” she experienced from him was “chipping away at my self-esteem and self-confidence”, and she was “spiralling into a very dark headspace”.
She began “drinking too much” and was even put on anti-depressants by the GP.
“Leaving just isn’t an option for me right now for several reasons, and I don’t even know if that’s what I want because I do adore him despite the lack of intimacy,” she continued.
The poster also stressed that she had done “absolutely everything” in her power to fix the lack of sex in the relationship before making the decision to cheat.
“I’m not heartless, and I do feel immense guilt for what I’ve done,” she added.
But she concluded: “If he doesn’t care about my needs or my feelings, why should I show him the same consideration?”
[bc_video account_id=”5067014667001″ application_id=”” aspect_ratio=”16:9″ autoplay=”” caption=”I was ‘too fat for sex’ – now I’m a CHAMP bodybuilder after shock transformation” embed=”in-page” experience_id=”” height=”100%” language_detection=”” max_height=”360px” max_width=”640px” min_width=”0px” mute=”” padding_top=”56%” picture_in_picture=”” player_id=”default” playlist_id=”” playsinline=”” sizing=”responsive” video_id=”6366575493112″ video_ids=”” width=”640px”]However, the majority of people in the comments section insisted the woman was in the wrong for continuing the relationship despite knowing she was going to cheat.
“You could simply break up with him,” one wrote.
“You chose not to.
“He is wrong for not caring and not wanting to get help but you should have ended the relationship.”
“You should have broken up with him, not cheated,” another added.
“Don’t come in here and try to make it out like it’s his fault you stepped out on him – you made that choice all on your own.”
“If you loved him, you wouldn’t want to hurt him and you’d understand that it’s best to leave the relationship instead of cheating on him,” a third agreed.
“Cheating is NEVER excusable.”
But others were more on the side of the woman, with one writing: “He clearly doesn’t care about your sexual needs, which are an important part of a relationship.
“Everyone in the replies saying to ‘just break up’ doesn’t know your situation.
“We are human at the end of the day. And 7 years is A LONG TIME to put up with it.”
“Although cheating is wrong it’s hard for me to blame you in your situation,” another mused.
“Honestly if your husband isn’t willing to work with you on this for 7 years I’d find it hard to stay in a relationship like this.”