Olivia hits out at her boyfriend for also wanting to explore an open relationship

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Woman lighting a candle in a kitchen; part of Olivia's open relationship photo casebook.

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DEIDRE SAYS: BY rushing into an open relationship, you missed the chance to explore why Ryan’s libido has suffered.

We expect men to have higher sex drives, so when the opposite happens, women often assume that their partner is no longer attracted to them.

There are a number of reasons a man’s sex drive may take a dive.

He may be on medication, he might be ill, may have low testosterone, he may be unhappy in the relationship or could be stressed, anxious or depressed.

So deal with the root of the issue before creating a bigger one. Talk to Ryan about how he is feeling, ask him to visit his GP and see if you can get the intimacy you both enjoyed back on track.

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Yasmin is excited to have the attention of her younger lover

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DEIDRE SAYS: OVERTHINKING and worrying about how others judge you puts huge limits on your choices.

By putting the expectations of others before your own needs, you neglect yourself and make decisions that are right for others, but most likely not you.

As long as Andy is mature enough to hold his own within the relationship, you’re both honest about what you’re looking for and are at the same life stage, if you want to date a younger man, that is entirely your business.

Go ahead and enjoy yourself.