SHE used to “stop traffic”, and never had to pay for her own Uber.
But as Nadiya Bekar has aged, she’s found the attention she gets from people – also known as “pretty privilege” – has disappeared.
However, instead of being sad about it, Nadiya has embraced her new found “invisibility”.
She explained the situation in a video on her TikTok page, as she said: “I used to be really pretty, I used to stop traffic and I used to have pretty privilege.
“I had all the advantages of an attractive young woman.
“Whenever I went out I never queued, always had drinks bought for me, men would always offer to pay for my Ubers and I was always asked out on dates.
“And then I grew up!”
It was when she hit her late 40s that she found the attention started to wane, and she started to “become invisible”.
“I noticed things physically changing in my skin, in my hair, but also my personality changed as well,” Nadiya continued.
“Along with my newfound invisibility I became so much more confident and I felt less pressure to perform.
“I was no longer asked out on dates regularly, my drinks certainly weren’t bought for me and forget being offered an Uber!”
She also didn’t find herself turning heads on the high street, adding that she felt “relieved” about it.
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In the caption, Nadiya wrote: “Pretty privilege can be confining and I am relieved to be in a new era in my life.
“I’m not saying I don’t think I’m pretty, just that I’m mature and this has a very different appeal, or not.”
The comments section was almost immediately filled with people weighing in, with the majority of them agreeing with Nadiya’s description of how pretty privilege changes as you age.
“Same for me, hit 50 feel my features have changed,” one wrote.
“I used to get a lot of attention, not anymore lol.”
“Men still think you are pretty, they just know it’s way harder to impress a women like you,” another added.
“But regardless, we shouldn’t be focusing on what they want anyway.”
“Exactly, ageing is a privilege,” a third commented.
“I am writing my PhD thesis at 59 & finishing my 4th book.”
“This happened to me too!! I don’t give a damn anymore and it’s liberating,” someone else said.
“Once a baddie, always a baddie!” another wrote.
There were people who were less than complimentary about Nadiya’s appearance – both then and now.
Some trolls insisted she “wasn’t all that”, and labelled her looks “average”, but the negative attention has left Nadiya feeling “nervous”.
She also blamed the rude remarks for destroying her confidence, and urged people to remember that beauty standards have changed over the past few years – thanks to the introduction of smartphones and filters.
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