FROM scheduling sex to simply letting it happen, keeping the spark alive in a relationship is all about finding what works best for you.
In many couples, one partner may take the lead in initiating intimacy more often than the other.
According to a study by The Knot, around 36% of couples report scheduling sex – and those who do, frequently note a higher level of intimacy satisfaction compared to couples who don’t.
For mum-of-three Zoe Hardman, 42, and her retired rugby player husband Paul Doran Jones, 39, they have shared how they manage to keep the passion alive in their relationship.
Speaking on the Made by Mammas podcast alongside her co-host Georgia Dayton, Zoe asked: “Do you schedule sex?”
She added: “I do.”
To which Zoe, who previously had “sexy Sundays” replied: “You do? I think we did but we don’t do that anymore.”
Zoe continued: “Dossa gets really tetchy if he doesn’t have sex every three days.
“So I have to manage that sometimes because it’s not always what I want.
“Then I get messages like, I’ve got to read this one to you that he sent me yesterday, he went ‘I’ve got d**k on tap for you babe.’
“I didn’t respond to it.”
Georgia replied: “For me that would be like, oh my God, ring a plumber. Get rid of that tap.”
[bc_video account_id=”5067014667001″ application_id=”” aspect_ratio=”16:9″ autoplay=”” caption=” ‘Horny’ Jamie Laing reveals he wants to have sex EVERY day but wife Sophie Habboo is only up for it ‘twice a year’” embed=”in-page” experience_id=”” height=”100%” language_detection=”” max_height=”360px” max_width=”640px” min_width=”0px” mute=”” padding_top=”56%” picture_in_picture=”” player_id=”default” playlist_id=”” playsinline=”” sizing=”responsive” video_id=”6366856530112″ video_ids=”” width=”640px”]Zoe continued: “Nobody has said that since the nineties.
“So I mean, I have to manage his expectations of what is an acceptable amount.
“But I do think that in a way, if you know when it’s coming and you, then you can maybe get a bit more excited about it.
“Make sure you’ve had wax, and you can make sure you’ve had a shower.”
Georgia replied, talking about the “sentiment of it” and how it’s more about “carving out time”.
She added: “And normally carving out time will lead to sex.
“For some people scheduling in sex is how it works for them.”
However, one big turn off for Zoe is “scheduling the type of sex”.
She said: “I think everyone has got their own funny quirks around it.
“If you are in a busy household, and you need to know once a week, or once a month, or every other day, whatever it is for you and you know that it’s coming, then that’s fine, you’ve got to figure out what works for you.”
