My wife forces me to have sex with her, even when I’m not in the mood

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife forces me to have sex with her, even when I’m not in the mood.

Her libido is much higher than mine and she makes me feel like I’m not a proper man if I say no.

I’m 34 and she’s 35. We’ve been married for three years.

Recently, I’ve been stressed and rarely feel like having sex. My wife isn’t sympathetic at all.

If I say I want to go straight to sleep, she will start stimulating me under the covers, then climb on top of me.

I’ll say “don’t” and try to push her away, but she is a large and strong lady.

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Afterwards, I feel used and dirty. She acts like nothing is wrong.

She says I wouldn’t be able to have sex if I wasn’t into it.

This is so humiliating that I can’t tell anyone. Please help.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Your wife is sexually assaulting you.

Sometimes, bodies have automatic responses to stimulation, but that is not the same as consent.

I’m afraid to say that your relationship is extremely unhealthy, and your wife is abusive.

See my support pack about Abusive Partners for more information.

You have no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed.

Please contact survivorsnetwork.org.uk (01273 720 110), which helps male victims of sexual assault, for support and advice.