MANY mums know all too well about the tricky situations they face in WhatsApp groups for their kids’ school and clubs.
One parent has come clean and expressed why she is not a fan of them.
The 40-year-old, who is known as @paleandinteresting on TikTok, shared a video of herself talking about her dislike for WhatsApp groups.
She revealed that there is a WhatsApp group at her kids’ school called “Mums Day/Night Out”, which she is not part of.
The mum felt that it the group was giving “Mean Girl energy” as it wasn’t open to all the classroom mums.
She compared it to feeling like you’re in secondary school and everyone is going out but you’re not invited.
The mum explained that there are about 60 parents across two classrooms, and that they are in their separate WhatsApp groups.
However, the “Mums Day/Night Out” group is separate to this, with only certain mums invited to join the job.
She added, that even though not everyone was in the group, the participants didn’t keep their plans secret.
She often heard parents shouting “are you guys coming to that on Saturday” across the playground.
The TikToker also explained that only the mums who have set up the group chat decide who goes into the group.
And although she is “not bothered,” what “really upsets” her is that there are other women on the playground who will feel hurt by the fact that they’re not in this group.
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She revealed that she is a mum who keeps herself to herself, but five years ago when she had her first son, she “would’ve loved to be invited to coffee or group chats”.
She described these groups as “giving mean girl energy” and said they’re just full of “cliquey mums.”
Within 24 hours of sharing her video on TikTok, @paleandinteresting received 171.5K views and 957 comments.
One person posted: “Why are you so triggered? You stink of jealousy. It isn’t good luck tbh.”
Another added: “You’re adults. Some people will be better friends than others; we shouldn’t, as adults, feel obliged to spend time with people we don’t get on with.”
To which the mum replied: “It’s not possible for 30-40 people to be close friends from a pool of about 60.”
However, others supported her, with one explaining that she had “dodged a bullet there.”
They added: “These groups are toxic and to be avoided like the plague.”
Another said: “I was invited into a mum group for a night out. Why is it an issue?
“I don’t think it’s done maliciously; some mums do just get on really well with each other and become genuine friends.”