DEAR DEIDRE: I LONG for a bit of variety in my sex life with my partner but he becomes defensive when I suggest it.
I am a woman of 25 and he is 27. We have been together for six months after meeting through a mutual friend.
We get on well and everything is fine except when it comes to our sex life.
Each time we have sex, I have to go on top.
When I suggest trying something different, he becomes defensive. He does nothing except lie there. It is always the same.
It is just so boring and I am worried things will never change.
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I am beginning to worry there is something wrong with him. Surely a different position every now and again is part of a healthy sex life?
DEIDRE SAYS: It is. But, if you are going to find out why he is so resistant, you need to talk to him to discover exactly why he seems so anxious.
Pick a moment, preferably not when you are about to have sex, to raise the subject with him.
Try to find out what he is scared of.
He may worry he won’t be able to get an erection, or keep one, or he may worry he won’t be able to climax.
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My support pack Best Positions For Sex explains more. Good luck.
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