A MUM has been torn apart online for defending her husband’s decision to cheat on their marriage.
Joy Harrington called the infidelity a “beautiful gift” and claimed it allowed her to “heal things” she “probably wouldn’t have otherwise.”
Posting the admission to her 279,000 Instagram followers from her account @joyharrington.ig, she uploaded a sweet video of the pair embracing and kissing.
But trolls were left unimpressed and branded her “embarrassing” for forgiving him and called her message “incredibly harmful.”
In her caption, Joy she admitted her opinion was “not true of every cheater or every cheating incident.”
She said there are “always exceptions” and that her experience comes with a “big caveat”.
But she insisted that the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” is “false” and said after her husband’s betrayal, their relationship came back “even stronger.”
Joy said cheating isn’t always attributed to attraction to other people, the quality of a couple’s sex life or even the relationship itself.
Instead, she says it’s “more about an unhealthy coping mechanism” or “trauma response.”
She claims it doesn’t mean your relationship has to end if one of you is disloyal, you just need to understand the root cause of the issue.
And the wronged wife says she is actually thankful that her husband strayed from their marriage, as it gave her the chance to examine “unhealthy patterns” that stem from “c****y wounds” and “beliefs that you don’t need to keep carrying.”
She said her experience led her to discover “resentment that was there since childhood” and finally find the freedom to let go of her “wounds.”
[bc_video account_id=”5067014667001″ application_id=”” aspect_ratio=”16:9″ autoplay=”” caption=”Moment cheating husband is caught leaving mistress’s lovenest by his wife” embed=”in-page” experience_id=”” height=”100%” language_detection=”” max_height=”360px” max_width=”640px” min_width=”0px” mute=”” padding_top=”56%” picture_in_picture=”” player_id=”default” playlist_id=”” playsinline=”” sizing=”responsive” video_id=”6368043274112″ video_ids=”” width=”640px”]Having made the decision to forgive her partner, Joy claims their relationship is perfectly healthy again.
Her loved-up video showed clips of the couple kissing, hugging and dancing together in what looks like the happiest of relationships.
But viewers in the comments were far from convinced.
One user said: “I truly feel sorry for anyone who takes advice from you.”
While someone else joined in: “This is embarrassing, know your worth.”
[quote credit=”Instagram user”]Check his phone. You won’t be surprised.[/quote]Another person blamed Joy for spreading misinformation: “Saying the trauma of betrayal is a “gift” is incredibly harmful to anyone who has been cheated on, this is egregious.”
While someone else was left feeling queasy from her post: “I’m sick to my stomach just reading this.”
[quote credit=”Instagram user”]Baby, please snap out of this delusion[/quote]And another person chimed in: “I get you’re trying to make the best out of being dealt a bad hand, but this is textbook gaslighting.
“Cheating is the most unloving, disrespectful, and cruel thing we could do to someone we pretend to love. And I mean pretend. People do not cheat on people they love.”
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