DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER having two boys, I have now become very broody for a baby girl.
I am 37 and my husband is 38. We have been married for 14 years and our sons are 10 and eight.
My boys are lovely but I feel as though my family is not complete. A daughter would be the icing on the cake.
I am always looking at female baby clothes and constantly thinking about girls’ names.
Every time I see a newborn, it makes me want another baby even more.
I work full-time and have recently taken on more hours after my husband lost his job. He is bound to get another job soon.
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I have thought very carefully about the ramifications of having another mouth to feed.
I have been feeling like this for quite some time and I don’t know if this yearning will go away.
[read-more title=”READ MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE” article_ids=”32878552,32878410″ shortcode_id=”03bde7de-0a36-4647-a0d5-6c09bd26b943″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: You must know deep down this is not good timing.
Please talk to your husband. He could feel under pressure if you were to go ahead with this plan now.
Financially how would you cope?
There is no guarantee you would have a girl and every baby deserves to be wanted for themselves and not feel as though they are second-best.
Only start trying when you are both sure it’s a good idea.
When the time comes, my support pack Want To Choose Your Baby’s Sex? may help you.