DEAR DEIDRE: AN ex-girlfriend told me my penis was so small she needed a magnifying glass to find it.
Her hurtful words have stayed with me, and now I’m struggling with my confidence in bed.
I’m a 27-year-old single guy.
I was with my ex, 25, for a year. She always made me feel I wasn’t good enough for her.
Our sex life was problematic, and the more I worried I wasn’t satisfying her, the worse it got. Sometimes, I struggled to get an erection.
We argued a lot and she was often mean – putting me down and insulting my appearance, like saying I needed to work out more.
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We split a few months ago. Since then, I’ve been on dating sites, then chickened out of arranging dates.
I have no problem attracting women – people say I’m good-looking and a nice guy – but I’m anxious about having another relationship.
My ex’s words keep ringing in my ears and I’m worried a new girlfriend will laugh at my penis or that I won’t be able to perform.
I feel so insecure and don’t know how to overcome this.
[read-more title=”MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE” article_ids=”33100541,33018012″ shortcode_id=”4b2281c5-96e6-4dee-9812-44de2a891727″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: Being teased about your sexual prowess can have a lasting impact on confidence.
However, being a good lover has little to do with the size of your penis – which I would wager is perfectly normal.
Your cruel ex simply picked on the thing most likely to hurt a man.
Good sex is about good communication, listening and being considerate.
And most women reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris – manually or orally – rather than through intercourse alone.
Read my support packs, Penis Size and Raising Self-Esteem for more support.