DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN make myself orgasm without any issue but my boyfriend is so dull in bed. He just doesn’t turn me on.
We met at a summer party. I love him but he lacks any technique and I think it’s down to inexperience.
I’ve had four sexual partners and one of them was an older man, who showed me how my body worked.
When we split up and I met my new, gorgeous boyfriend two months ago, I thought he was sex on legs but sadly, his efforts in bed were pathetic.
He’s had two girlfriends and only one long-term, who I gather was shy in bed.
We had sex on our third date and it wasn’t great, but I wasn’t expecting much. Now, I expect to feel satisfied.
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Then he climbs on top and when he’s had his way, it’s all over. It leaves me very frustrated. I’m 23 and he’s 25. What can I do?
[read-more title=”MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE” article_ids=”32878552,32878410″ shortcode_id=”a3262db0-72cc-4d7b-a567-361595c65457″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: Sex doesn’t come with a manual. You are both still very much learning about what you are meant to do and how it’s supposed to feel.
If your boyfriend doesn’t know how to arouse a woman then he lacks knowledge and he’ll never know unless you talk to him.
Show him what works for you – and ask what would feel good to him.
My support packs called Understanding Female Pleasure and Understanding Male Pleasure are packed with advice which should give you thrilling results.