DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL as if my life is stuck in a rut and I am just existing.
I’m a 40-year-old single man. Apart from my parents I have zero friends and few acquaintances.
My lack of friendships is making me feel inadequate. I suffer with low confidence as it is and this just makes it worse.
I would love a group of friends, even one or two would mean so much. I want people I can confide in and connect with.
I feel sad when I see groups of friends out with each other. It just brings home to me how alone I really am.
I work as a freelancer in IT, so my workplace constantly changes and I never get the chance to make meaningful connections.
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Please suggest something before I am too old to go out and make any friends.
[read-more title=”READ MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE” article_ids=”33062358,33018012″ shortcode_id=”92620759-3c06-4865-a567-717ef0e72b24″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: There’s nothing wrong with being you, but you need to raise your confidence and your belief in yourself. My support pack on Raising Self-esteem should help.
Think about hobbies and interests and get involved in activities where you will meet like-minded people.
Consider cognitive behavioural therapy, which has been proved to be beneficial. Your GP can find a therapist for you.
And check out meetup.com to see what is going on locally.
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