A MUM-OF-10 has insisted she hates the “stigma” that comes with having a large family.
Vanessa regularly posts about her busy home life on her social media pages, and has recently been sharing videos of herself prepping dinner for her brood.
In a comment on one such video, a viewer wrote: “Your kitchen is so nice considering you have 10 kids”.
And Vanessa – mum to kids who are 16, 15, nearly 14, 13, 8, 8, 7, 4, 3 and 22 months – decided to reply in another clip, as she said: “I’m sure this wasn’t meant as a backhanded compliment but it really is.
“No hate to this woman at all, but large families or people with lots of kids just have such a bad stigma attached to them.”
Vanessa explained that whenever she mentions she has a large family, there’s an “automatic low-level thought process” that happens.
“I mean I prefer to spend more time in my kitchen than the average person,” she continued.
“So why not? Why wouldn’t I have a nice kitchen?
“My children aren’t monkeys that hang off the units or climb up the side sometimes to reach something.
“Do you know what I mean?”
She continued to say that when she’s filmed TikToks before, people have commented on how “quiet” her house is.
“People were like, ‘Oh your house is quiet considering you’ve got ten kids’,” she said.
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“And that’s why I’m on TikTok – to break the stigma of large families really.
“Every little helps!”
Vanessa added in the video caption: “I know the comment isn’t meant with any malice but people always naturally have such a low opinion of large families – it’s sad.”
And one person in the comments section wrote: “I get all the comments like this!
“You look so good/young/sane ‘considering’ you have 7 kids!
“So if I didn’t have 7 I must look rubbish/old/crazy etc!”