DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I told this guy we are nothing more than friends, he treats me like his girlfriend, taking me for lovely days out and buying me romantic gifts.
I am 22, he is 27 and we met on a dating app.
He told me he is fine with us just being friends but then sends me soppy text messages.
Although he is such a kind and thoughtful person, I am not attracted to him physically.
The last thing I want is to be in a relationship with him.
He keeps asking me to meet his friends and family but I can’t do this.
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I don’t know where to go from here.
I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I thought I had made myself clear.
It sounds heartless but now I am wondering if I should just ignore him and hope he will get the message.
[read-more title=”READ MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE” article_ids=”33151626,33152138″ shortcode_id=”31128114-43cc-4c9b-844a-fd805078c248″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: By accepting days out and gifts, you risk sending him mixed messages.
You know he’s not for you, but he’s not listening to what you’re saying.
While he’s spending time with you, he is holding out hope that you might grow to like him more and change your mind.
Talk to him again. Let him down gently but firmly. You may have to repeat it a few times before he gets the message.