DEAR DEIDRE: THERE is a young woman who catches the train every day from the station where I’m the guard – and I’m longing to ask her out.
She looks about 25 and is so pretty. I’m 23 and was immediately drawn to her.
I make a point of saying good morning as she passes through the station. She always gives me such a warm smile in return.
I’ve worked at the same station since I finished my apprenticeship.
The lads from the station tell me I should invite her for a drink but I’m worried that if she doesn’t like me, she’ll think I’m harassing her.
I could be reported to my manager for chatting to a passenger during work time.
I’m new to all this. I’ve never asked anyone out before. Can you help?
[authenticated-scripts src=”%3Cscript%20type%3D%22text%2Fjavascript%22%20src%3D%22https%3A%2F%2Fthesun.formstack.com%2Fforms%2Fjs.php%2Fdear_deidre_problem%22%3E%3C%2Fscript%3E%3Cnoscript%3E%3Ca%20href%3D%22https%3A%2F%2Fthesun.formstack.com%2Fforms%2Fdear_deidre_problem%22%20title%3D%22Online%20Form%22%3EOnline%20Form%20-%20Dear%20Deidre%3C%2Fa%3E%3C%2Fnoscript%3E%0A” type=”embedded” width=”100″ /]DEIDRE SAYS: Why not make small talk next time you see her. That way, she will know you are interested.
The fact she smiles is a good sign. Be ready for the fact that she may have a partner or may not want a relationship – but if you don’t ask her out, you’ll never know.
It couldn’t be seen as wasting time on the job or harassment if you just ask her to meet you for a coffee out of working hours.
You may be taking “customer relations” to the next level but what is wrong with that?
If there’s a spark when you chat, think about taking things further by arranging a date.
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