DEAR DEIDRE: I MIGHT have to confess to my boyfriend that I kissed his best mate but I’m worried about what he’ll do. He’s got a crazy temper.
We are both 22 and my boyfriend has cheated on me a few times. I keep forgiving him but since I found out, I go out binge-drinking.
I can’t control myself. I have kissed guys to score points.
I was coming home from my Christmas do on the train with a colleague. He’s just a friend.
My boyfriend was walking along to meet me off the platform. When my colleague hugged me goodbye at our station, my boyfriend attacked him.
Last night I was out with a friend and ended up kissing my boyfriend’s best mate.
Today I’ve had a message from him saying that although I came on to him, he liked it and when can we meet up? Help!
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In terms of your cheating, it seems drinking is the catalyst.
My guess is if you were sober, you’d never dream of cheating. You know yourself how it hurts to be cheated on.
Vow to drink less so you are in control and tell your boyfriend’s mate that you made a mistake. If there’s any chance of him telling your boyfriend what happened, you’ll have to tell him first.
Neither of you seems serious about your relationship so do think carefully about whether you should be with this guy at all.
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