Helen finds out why Kev has not been having sex with her

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Illustration of a couple in bed, the woman checking her phone, text bubbles showing their conversation about her health anxiety.

Illustration of a couple in bed, one using a phone, the other feigning a headache. Text suggests using a headache as an excuse.

Illustration of a young woman telling her partner she is unwell and needs care.

Illustration of two men looking at a phone, with speech bubbles showing their conversation.

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Illustration of a man bringing breakfast to a woman in bed who is suffering from anxiety.

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Frustrated man interrupted while watching a video in his car.

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DEIDRE SAYS: NIP this in the bud. Sleeping on the couch and tuning in to adult content was convenient for Kevin when you felt ill, but if this pattern becomes ingrained it will damage your relationship.

Make sure he rejoins you in bed soon and tell him you don’t want him relying on porn.

Invest some time in Kevin – in the bedroom and out of it – to get things back on an even keel.

As health is a big concern for you, perhaps see a counsellor to explore how to deal with this.

Some people who live with health anxiety have a family history of serious illness or death, or perhaps were very sick as a child.

My support pack, How Counselling Can Help, provides more advice.

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